Because, if you're reading this page, you want a change,
perhaps desperately. It's time you stopped feeling like someone who's not smart enough,
thin enough, or rich enough to be truly happy. Someone who worries about "what
if this happens or that happens" so much that you can't enjoy the present.
Or someone who is so perfectionistic and critical
of themselves (or others) that your life lacks joy and spontaneity. Isn't
it time you were happy and truly felt good about yourself?
Isn't it time you truly accepted yourself?
Because that's what your problem is really all about.
You don't love, accept, and respect yourself unconditionally!
You're either telling yourself what you should be
thinking, feeling, or doing all the time, or you're telling yourself how you
messed up once again and will probably keep on doing so in the future.
Most of the people I've seen over years of experience as a
psychotherapist are not fully aware of how critical, controlling and rejecting they
are toward themselves They're always pushing or pulling themselves in one way or another. "Do
this." "Don't do that." The implicit belief,
often times, is that if they somehow discover and do the right thing, they will finally be
happy.
They usually believe, too, that telling themselves to snap
out of it when they're down in the dumps really helps them get out of a funk and
accomplish more. It takes a while for them to really understand that such negative self
talk not only doesn't help them become happier and more
successful, but actually creates stress, anxiety,and depression and plays a major
part in generating and maintaining physical conditions like being overweight,
smoking,, and hypertension. People who struggle with negative self talk never
feel enough just as they are.
And the simple truth is this:
We achieve most authentically when we truly love and
accept ourselves
So how to you develop unconditional self love if you
haven't felt it all your life? Well, one way is through psychotherapy. Over my years
in practice here in Boston, I've helped many people love themselves more fully. Therapy
really works. I recommend it. But therapy is not the only way.
In the following self help program, which you
can purchase inexpensively from this website,
I’m going to describe a powerful way to understand and change
your negative thinking, anxiety,depression and other bad moods in
the privacy of your own home.
This program is called Mood Shifting: Understanding
and Transforming Your Negative Moods.
This simple, powerful, and deeply compassionate program
has taken me 29 years of professional experience to grasp,and 6 years to
fully develop and fine tune. It is composed of three steps.
In STEP 1, called AWARENESS, you’ll come to understand
exactly where your negative, anxious, and self critical thoughts and feelings are
coming from and what they're really all about. Now you may think your bad
moods come and go for no reason but that's really not the case. When you
learn what you're shifting moods are really all about, I promise you, it will be
quite a surprise!
In STEP 2, you’ll gain a deeper sense of SELF COMPASSION.
You’ll finally come to understand why your negativity, pessimism, anxiety or self
criticism is not your fault! Sound irresponsible? Sound like a copout?
Many motivational speakers will tell you that it is. They'll tell you that you’re
“100 % responsible" for your state of mind. While their intention is to motivate
you to achieve more in life, the actual result is that you feel shame.
You see others accomplishing more and seeming happier and you say “what’s wrong
with me?” The truth, though, is that only by developing self compassion
can you eliminate the negative thoughts and feelings that keep you unhappy.
In fact, once you fully recognize how and why you're not to blame for your negativity ,
you will become more responsible, happier, and accomplish more than you
ever dreamed possible in your life. This is what the third step is all about.
I call STEP 3: AUTHENTIC ADULT ACTION. Here, a powerful action
program utilizes a 150 page workbook chuck full of practical
exercises , including self hypnosis, which enable you to transform your negative moods into happier and more
productive ones.
The easy to read workbook is organized into eight weekly step by
step lessons which teach you such eye opening things as:
* Identifying what triggers your negative moods
* How your negativity may have protected you in your life
* Recognizing when you're operating from past experience instead of being in the present
*The crucial difference between self-blame and self- responsibility
*3 powerful steps to getting out of bad moods more quickly
*How to stay on a diet, stop smoking, lower blood pressure etc. more easily
*Ways to resolve couple conflict more effectively
*How to identify blocks to career achievement and move beyond them.
... and much, much more
But that's not all.
While Mood Shifting is a self help program, sometimes we can get stuck
and want to give up. As a "negative self talker" you might even find
your self reading a few pages and then saying things like, " This won't work" or
"Why bother, nothing can change". Now you don't have to "give up the
ship" because I will be available to help you personally every step of the
way.
1. You can write me via e-mail with
any questions you may have- at any time night or day free
for the first three months after purchase. I will take your questions
seriously and suggest what I think is best for you. I will usually respond within 24
hours.
2. You can have personal 1-1 coaching
with me via telephone for a moderate fee. Using the Mood Shifting Workbook as a
guide, I will help you develop personal awareness, self compassion, and authentic adult
actions to live a happier and more fulfilling life. Just the other day, a client
described her progress with the progam in a way which, I believe, will mirror your
own. She said,
"All my life I've been able to be nice to others. Now, I'm finally able
to be nice to myself. Mood Shifting is really amazing!"
To learn about ordering the Mood Shifting Program,
please click here.
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